Khloe Kardashian’s ‘Revenge Body’ is a show for fans that’s all about them getting revenge on people who have doubted them during their weight gain. As much as it’s a brilliant incentive to “make our haters our biggest motivators” - as Khloe says in episode 1, it’s just as toxic to transform yourself for someone else.
But this isn’t about Khloe’s show. This is about you.
The concept of a 'revenge' self-improvement defeats the meaning of growth. By seeking revenge through your appearance, you are still seeking validation from the very person who left you at your lowest. The issue with seeking validation from someone else is that there’s an evident deficiency in self-confidence. YOU are the root of the problem. Not your ex.
When you break up with someone, it is incredibly tempting to want to perform happiness, especially on social media. We want people from our past to know ‘I’m good without you’ - even if this isn’t true. What most of us fail to realise, is that as long as your ex still has access to your online activity, you are still leaving that window of judgement open for them. Funny enough, the best way to get your awesome self back, is to remove your ex from all your social media accounts - if possible, block them. That way, you won't have to worry about 'who' sees you. You won’t have to curate your life for someone else instead of to live it for yourself. You won’t have to post a picture of that cute Saturday night outfit with a that fake ‘I’m having the time of my life and I’ve never been happier’ caption (come on, we’ve all been there) in the hopes that they’ll see it, fall back in love with you and send you a message spelling out their suppressed, undying love for you. Honey, it won’t happen if you sit there waiting for it. You’ve got a whole life you need to live for yourself. This is the period for you to grow in your own time peacefully. It’s also vital to keep in mind that blocking an ex on social media isn't 'bitter'. It's self-care. This is your world. You are in FULL control of who is allowed to experience it with you.
It’s important to understand that as long as you're still seeking someone's validation through your 'revenge self-improvement, that person STILL has power over you. Using yourself as a weapon against someone else will only harm you. Because until that person validates your 'revenge body', you won't be satisfied with yourself. Nobody deserves such power over you.
The REAL post-breakup self-improvement begins with mentally de-shackling yourself from what once held power over you. We can’t be chasing success in the aims of irritating people from the past. It's empty. The aim is to flex on the inner voice that tells you that you aren't good enough. No self-improvement is valid until YOU are satisfied with YOURSELF. Until you free yourself from someone’s judgement, you will always belong to other people before you belong to yourself. It’s never too late to free yourself.